Friday, June 24, 2016

The Pulse - The Loss of Many Unfulfilled Dreams. The Orlando, Florida Massacre

I know the pain, hurt, anguish and suffering of losing a child. In my situation, I lost two sons. For those parents who lost loved ones in Orlando, Florida, to a coward disguised as a man, I offer my sincere condolences.
The loss of a child is an experience no parent should ever suffer. We hope our children will live to bury us, not the opposite! It is especially tragic for parents if the cause of death is murder or some inoperable disease. The ripple effects are ongoing. You lose a child, someone loses a brother or sister, a nephew is lost, an aunt is gone, a grandchild is slain, and on and on. Like the ripples of an ocean forever in motion with no ending. My sons died many years ago, but I am still deeply touched by this loss as if it happened yesterday! So to the parents who lost loved ones in the Orlando, Florida Massacre, I feel your grief and pray that you find peace.

We have seen far too many killings of late..... Our babies, children and people in general are being buried at an alarming rate. We must work together to find a solution before we become numb to the horrific violence being inflicted on our people in our society on our humanity. What a tragedy it would be if we all look the other way and massacres like the one in Orlando, Florida, become our norm. Understanding that life is short and tomorrow never promised, it is critical to try and counteract violence, hatred and intolerance, and replace them with peace, love tolerance and a humane society.

We should never allow a moment to go by without acknowledging our eternal relationship with our children. It is so important to cherish them with love, hope, direction and guidance. It is equally as important to give them the tools needed to sustain themselves as they become productive adults. The philosopher Epicurus once wrote his thought on what is and is not essential for happiness. He stated: Natural and necessary are friends, freedom, thought [about main sources of anxiety: death, illness, poverty, superstition] food, shelter, clothes.” “Natural but unnecessary; grand house, private baths, banquets, servants, fish, meat.” “Neither natural nor necessary; Fame and Power.”

In the Holy Bible, there is a passage that speaks volumes to the perils, gain, surviving and importance of life. Ecclesiastes, Chapter 3, Verses 1-8.
  1. 1:  To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
  2. 2:  A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is  planted;
  3. 3:  A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
  4. 4:  A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
  5. 5:  A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
  6. 6:  A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
  7. 7:  A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
  8. 8:  A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
The investigation is ongoing as to why the Orlando, Florida terrorist made a decision to massacre as many people as he could that day. Rumors are swirling, but your pain and cry for help have no boundaries. Knowing why could offer some comfort to those who need closure, but the long- term effects are unwavering. Do not blame yourself while thinking there is something you could have done to prevent this. Just know that you created a unique individual whose memory will live forever in your heart, mind and spirit. Unique is a word that is often overused and misplaced, but I believe we are all unique and special in our own way since there are no two people exactly alike! Not even identical twins.

Helen Schucman said it best in her seminal book, A Course In Miracles: When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.”

May God be with you and yours in this time of grief and may God bring you the comfort needed. 

By: James H. Williams

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